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People in Girona often ask us “Why three months in Girona?” True, if we were just visiting landmarks and museums in the city, that would take about three days. While some people travel for art and some for food, we are in it for the people. We stay a long time in order to make relationships that we hope will be enlightening and longstanding. We are curious and communicative by nature and profession; we like to learn about the world through the people that live here. But only if we really like hanging out with them as well.
On our very first trip outside Girona city, Jeannette Breetvelt and Vicens Ripoll, our landlords, took us to a town called Pals, a charming medieval village. I explained to them what pals means in English at which point we all threw our arms around each other and said: “Pals!”
We didn’t know then that we really would become pals. They were right there in the hospital every day with Tom and me, bringing smiles and translating what the doctors were saying in rapid Catalan. You’ve already seen that they welcomed him home with a quart of frozen yogurt and bottles of artisan beer, and then threw Tom a birthday party.
We met Simone Nobel and Gabriel Salas at that birthday party. He is a fisherman and she is a translator for various medical businesses. Two days later we got on a train to Barcelona and there was Simone, in the same car, right across the aisle, on her way to the Big City to visit her children. Small world and all that. We talked for an hour and a half about our lives. She offered to take us in her car to visit small villages around the city.

Gerard Stutje (center) and children Gerard Jr. (at left) and Isabel (at right) singing Happy Birthday in a video emailed to Tom. (Photo by Luisa Stutje.)
Gerard Stutje is a Dutch court and police translator that Tom met on the coronary floor at the hospital – a neighbor, lodged in the adjacent room. Tom’s staring into space, bored as a sloth and wired to EKG machines, when this tall handsome blond man in a robe waltzes in and says “Hello!” in English. He sits down to talk, and continues to do so every day until Tom goes home. After that, Gerard invited him to a two-man party in Gerard’s hospital room to watch the F1 race at Circuit de Catalunya. Three days after that, Gerard sent the video pictured above of himself and his children singing happy birthday to Tom. Tom and Gerard exchange emails every couple of days and may do so for a lifetime.
Josep and Paula Ney run a restaurant in our beach town of L’Escala, but we met them at a restaurant in our neighborhood in Girona. She was a British au pair in Spain when she met and married her chef. We are always trying to arrange a get-together but life gets in the way. Last week we were wandering the streets of L’Escala when Paula hailed us from a cafe where she was having coffee with a friend. Again, strange coincidence.
Then she hurried us back to her place, Restaurant l’Escalenc, and fed us an enormous and fabulous lunch of steamed mussels, fideuà (the pasta version of paella), and a bottle of white wine. We got on the bus home wine-logged and garlic-infused. They are wonderful, Paula and Josep. Also the wine and garlic.
Adriana Bararu Anca manages Jeanette and Vicens’ dental clinic. She is a Romanian lawyer who fell in love with the scion of a Catalan pottery family and moved here eight years ago. She is also drop dead gorgeous. I was told that Adriana, who speaks terrific English as well as Catalan and a few other idioms, could be of help if I needed it. She proceeded to make me a pedicure appointment, fix the television, and demystify my cell phone, and she’s still at it.
Steve Brown heads up Girona Grapevine, our Wednesday morning English-speaking group. Steve made several visits to the hospital while Tom was in, bringing presents such as real Coke, books and magazines, and once a motherboard that Steve had made after I had told him that Tom missed techie talk. Steve moved here from the UK after selling his electronics company because he’s just always loved the general neighborhood. And as a retiree, he suddenly started doing really wonderful watercolors, which he’d never done before. One of his watercolors is featured in this post from earlier in the month.
Moira Cannon is from Scotland; she fell in love with a Catalan man with a bridal shop. They married (what did she wear, I wonder?) and had three children. Now those kids are grown up and moved on, but Moira has been here for fifty years and knows absolutely everything. We boldly asked Steve and Moira over for dinner the other night and they both came, which we consider an honor. We had a high old time, too.
What pulls all these pals together is this European generosity of spirit. We have been almost spooky fortunate that all these fascinating, kind, like-minded people have leapt out of the woodwork to our side, bearing gifts of understanding and laughter. We knew we were lucky with Vicens and Jeannette, but it turns out there is a deep well of wonderful people around here. And if we are lazy about contacting them, we bump into them anyway. Coincidence? We just don’t know.
Each friend represents a world in us,
a world possibly not born until they arrive,
and it is only by this meeting
that a new world is born.
~ Anais Nin
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Love the saying by Anais Nin. So true how friends enrich your life more than you can ever imagine.
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Yes, cuz, and the “more you can ever imagine” is so true. Also more than you’ll ever consciously know, as some outside influences are quite subtle. Thanks for that comment!
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It’s you who draw friends so easily !!! A wonderful quality…you will have fun because apparently you ARE fun!!!!
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It seems that this is one of the best recipe to meet new people abroad
and to test their generosity and loyalty : Be very friendly, then have a heart attack and stay at the local hospital !
I’m so glad for you that you met such a good group of expat and native people
during your 3 months stay in Girona : long enough to develop some of the best friendships of your life.
Thank you for introducing these nice people to us. I felt like hoping on a plane to visit you there and meet them too !!
Mapi
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Yes! That WAS a very creative friendship test, was it not? Please hop on a plane! .
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How will you ever be able to leave?
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THAT will be hard. But we still have to conquer Greece and Italy….
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So glad you have met so many wonderful people LL. Did you fix Steve and Moira up? K
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Where IS your mind, dear thing? No, they’ve known each other forever…
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Hi Louise,
Actually it wasn’t until Friday (nine days after my coronary bypass operation) that I left the hospital, next day was Tom’s birthday. And thanks for the adjective “handsome”, you should see me now, I just had a haircut. 😉
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Even MORE handsome?
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Thank you for your kind words Louise.I love the saying of Anais Nim too. The world becomes more affective ,understandable and closer when we meet wonderful people like you!
Jeannette
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Likewise, Guapa.
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Dear Louise and Tom,
What a heartwarming and hopeful message. Do you think these magical friendships would have happened if the roles were reversed and a couple from Catalan were visiting here in Portland? Perhaps but I am not sure. It seems that perhaps the amazing generous open people you have met there are part of a culture that is very different from what we have here. They seem to be more open to new relationships than we are here and seem to put a premium on personal connection–maybe not as consumed by their work,,, They seem to be more generous with their time…
Of course the answer is most probably that you and Tom are such open, optimistic, generous, intelligent, fun, literate people that everyone wants to be your friend. The point is that you guys are amazing and are open to all the new worlds that are opening up before your eyes.
Love, Kathy
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Yes to paragraph one, and to paragraph two, my mother believes you. We count you two among those magicals in the USA.
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I am Dedie Uunila Taylor’s sister (she forwards your posts), who lives in Oxford, UK. The friends you are making speak a lot for you, I think. You obviously attract people with your openness, friendliness and honesty. What you are encountering is not the norm in Europe. Good ambassadors, you are. If you add me to your list, I will be glad…
Laila Uunila Monahan, Cassington, UK
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Hello, Laila (such a pretty name), and thank you for the compliments. We cannot add you to the mailing list: only you can do that. Jut look for the word “Follow” somewhere on your screen, click it, and follow the instructions. It only takes a few seconds, we never send junk mail, and you can unsubscribe whenever you wish.
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I am now on your list. What is the name of your friend, the Englishman, who paints the appealing pictures? I look forward to accompanying you on your travels.
Laila Uunila Monahan, Oxford
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Glad to have you aboard, Laila. The Englishman would be Steve Brown (his website is here). Steve is one of the planets finer examples of mankind.
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I really enjoyed this post. What a great gift to make new friends, not always so available as we get older and live in our usual paths (ruts).
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Anita, avoiding ruts has become our mantra. 😉 Thanks for the comment.
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Louise, It seems that you and Tom spread sunshine wherever you go … and your friends, both old and new, are the happy recipients. I’m so glad that this wonderful support system has been there for you during your recent challenges. You two are truly citizens of the world. All the best, Terri
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CITIZENS OF THE WORLD!!! Exactly what we were going for. and coming from you, such an honor. We bow at your Gallivantin’ feet!
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