Yesterday was birthday number 69. Sixty-nine! Having just survived two life-threatening events, I am keeping my bald head above water in an ocean of feelings, defeating whirlpools of self-pity amidst the contemplation of mortality.
Treading water is not as difficult as it seems; for yesterday, with no home, nine time zones away from all that’s familiar and from those whom I love, there was a party. A party for me! Imagine coming to a far-away land and sharing the company of people who honor and respect you – enough to throw a party for you. Is that cause for gratitude or what?

Jeanette (at left), Gabriel, Simone, Louise, and me at the birthday dinner table. (Photo by Vicens Ripoll.)
And gratitude is what I feel. I’m grateful for being alive; grateful for chocolate cake and cava; grateful for multi-lingual laughter; grateful for my emergent fuzz of hair; and most of all, grateful for the loving Catalan people pictured above and their bounty of affection. Thank you, Vicens and Jeanette. Thank you, Simone and Gabriel. And most of all, thank you Louise. This man, so far from home in so many ways, is humbled by your generosity.
Happy birthday and many many happy returns ( to health and adventures)!
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Thanks, Molly. I’ll take that word “return” in all its senses.
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Happy 69th birthday Thomas !!
I’m so happy for you that you were able to celebrate it in a cava in Girona
with people like you that are loving and appreciative of life!!
Your picture without a hat is beautiful !! you look like a movie star !!
Mapi
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Thanks, Mapi. Jeanette and Vicens’ house really *is* a cave, in many ways. It’s 440 years old, and parts are underground. An astonishing (and quite lovely) place.
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Happy birthday Tom. I’m so glad you are doing so well. That was a scary time I know.
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Thanks, Cuz. Scary, yes, but it sure amps up one’s feelings of appreciation for almost everything in life.
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Dear Tom
We were following your storeis about both the horrific and the delightful events of your and Louise’s time in spain. so glad to hear that from now you are on to the delightful-only path.
Your statements really are moving. Especially about your b day celebration; i can imagine how graet it feels to celebrate with such a loving crowd. Happy birthday.
Yours, michal and tee
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Thank you, Michal. My eyes are fixed on the delightful-only path now. It’s my choice and I’m sticking with it.
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Happy BIrthday Tomas – I agree, one candle, or one per decade or that question mark candle are good options !!
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There were 13 candles, spelling “Happy Birthday.” Just the right number: I blew them all out with one breath!
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Dear Tom and Louise
We are very happy to share this part of your journey.!
Share emotions is always a source of positive energy.
We love your enthusiasm for life!
Vicens & Jeannette
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With friends like you and Vincens, Jeanette, it’s impossible not to have enthusiasm for life!
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Happy Birthday OLD friend! Can’t believe we first met when you were 49. In another 20 years, I promise to visit you in the “home” where ever in the world that may be.
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Thanks, Brent. It sure as hell won’t be one of those places where I’ll be left in a corner to slobber and blather. Louise and I are talking about St. Croix. Maybe that’s where I’ll be in twenty years. I’ll be waiting.
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Happy 69th birthday Tom! This is one to celebrate; reminds us all to always take note of the day! Linda
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Thanks, Linda. I *am* taking note of every day. We have a marvelous terrace here, sitting high above the city. Louise and I sit out there almost every evening and I bore her with interminable recitations of all the things I’m appreciating at the moment. The lists are long.
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Here’s to a very Happy Birthday with many more to come
Sent via the Samsung Galaxy S™ III, an AT&T 4G LTE smartphone
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Thanks, Bruce. It’s great to hear from you.
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Dear Tom,
Happy 69th ! I will face that milestone in August. The friends that are gathered around the table speak of the very special, loving, positive person you are. Wish I could have been among them.
Much love to you and Louise, Kathy
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This is making me cry. In a good way. Kathy, flights leave for Barcelona a couple times a day. We can celebrate again when you get here. Love to you and B!
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Happy Birthday Tom! What a lovely way to celebrate. We can tell that you gather friends and fans, no matter where you go – whether in person or on the internet. So to you, from your biggest fans … Feliç Aniversari! Wishing you and Louise all the very best, Terri and James
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Thank you, James and Terri! Our biggest fans!! Coming from people as well traveled as you, I’m flattered.
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Happy birthday, yesterday. I had only tiny moments in pools of big activity (spring choir concert and end of year gathering), so the greetings had to wait until today. So glad you are part of this earth. Just think, for most of human history, almost no one lived 69 years. Here’s to joy and continued life adventures.
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I get it, Anita. I have now lived longer than my father lived. I hope choir is going well: there were acapella groups every day in the plaza for Flors de Temps here last week, Some were choir-like. It was such a pleasure to sit at a sidewalk café, sip cava, and listen.
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Tom, You knocked one out of the ballpark! Nice comeback and well-played. I expect to keep hearing of your ful return to travel and adventures.
With warm wishes. Julia L.
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Thanks, Julia. Hear you will!
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